Tony Mc Cann & James O’Brien
A night in front of the telly leads to a future of happiness
Tony Mc Cann and James O’ Brien had no idea what fate had
in store for them when they got to know each other almost 18 years ago. Tony had
moved from Dublin to Wexford as his family had relocated. James is originally
from Wexford and so it wasn’t long before they found each other. “We got
chatting on ICQ, (an instant messaging type programme like MSN).”
After chatting constantly for a number of weeks, the couple
finally got to meet each other in person, and ever since that day, Tony and
James are inseparable.
James works for a mobile phone store and Tony is a security
trainer. They are now living together just outside Enniscorthy in Co. Wexford
with their four dogs, one cat and a spider! Most engagements are a surprise for
only one half of the couple, but for Tony and James it was a surprise for both
It was a typical night in front of the telly that got them
thinking seriously about making it official. “We were at home one evening
watching a program on the forthcoming marriage equality referendum and Tony
said that it was something he would like to get involved in so I said go ahead
and Tony asked me if it passed would I like to get married and of course I said
yes, so Tony said does that mean we are getting married and I said yes it must
and then within half an hour we had decided on the date!
As a result Tony had not one, but two big announcements to
make to his parents, the first was he was getting married and the second was
that he was gay and marrying me!” recalls James. On that remarkable night, the
couple set the date for February 20, 2016 at the Upton Court Hotel, Co. Wexford.
The lads had three significant themes throughout their
wedding. First their colour scheme was purple and gold to tie in with the
Wexford county colours. Secondly their table plan had a Route 66 theme, as
James and Tony have travelled the route twice and last but definitely not
least, they incorporated the rainbow theme. “Our cakes and socks were rainbow
colours and we both wore “yes equality” cufflinks as well as a lapel pin.
guest book was one of the large yes equality posters.” The flowers consisted of
rainbow roses for the button holes, the best women’s bouquets and the flower
girls arrangements. “Our table centre pieces were purple and gold with rainbow
roses.” The lads went all out with their wedding cake. “We had two rainbow
cakes from “Rakes of Cakes” in Wexford town and our main wedding cake was a two
tier chocolate biscuit cake that was made to look like a wedding suit with
again the Wexford theme of purple roses and gold dicky bows, this was created by
“Daphnes Crazy Cakes” in Bunclody. The wedding attire was a feature of the gold
and purple Wexford theme.
“We rented all our wedding party suits from Murt
Walsh Menswear in Enniscorthy, our wedding outfit consisted of white shirt with
white waist coats with purple and gold swirls on it. Our suit was a dark grey
suit, both grooms wore gold cravats and the best men, Tony’s father and page
boy all wore purple cravats. The best women wore purple dresses.” The groom’s
outfits were topped off with their rainbow coloured socks. Tony and James’s
wedding rings are titanium with dual black enamel bands which were purchased
from Fields jewellers In Dublin.
The grooms hired David Waldron who travelled
from Arklow to give all the male members of the wedding party a cut throat
shave the morning of the wedding. It was a surprise from the loving couple to
Tony’s father, the best and the groom’s men. “It was a great buzz just sitting
all together in a room in the hotel chatting and having a glass of champagne
while being shaved and it certainly helped relax the nerves.”
“In the place names cards we hid a scratch
card inside and a lucky penny. This was a little thank you favour from us to
our guests. We also has a small quiz on how well our guests know us with a
prize bottle of champagne.” The couple chose “Stand by Me” as their entrance
song, followed by “To Make You Feel my Love” which was sung by Tony’s niece
Emma between the readings.
While signing of the register, “Run” by Leona Lewis
was played and the grooms walked down the aisle to “Over the Rainbow.” The
wedding photographer was by John Walsh Photography Enniscorthy and the couple’s
videographer was Kamil Films. Invitations were provided by Liz Doran burke of
LDB Designs Enniscorthy.
Tony’s brother lives in Key West in Florida, so Tony
and James visited Key West on their honeymoon. “We booked our flights online
and travelled over a week after the wedding to Key West, Tony’s brother had
travelled over for the wedding with his friend Carol so we spent our honeymoon
being pampered and spoiled by Derek and Carol. We had wanted to go to Las Vegas
but changed our mind to a relaxing holiday in the sun, and Key West is amazing
for gay couples.”
The couple went out of their way to involve
both of their families as much as possible in their wedding day. “We tried to
involve family and friends as much in all aspects of our wedding, from friends
creating our handmade invites, seating plan and our wedding cakes, to Jimmy’s
sister Catherine, who transformed a normal room into something wonderful with her flowers
and extra special touches.” “We did a special dance routine.
It started with
our families, then the two of us separately and then at the end our families
joined in again and by the end we had all of our guests on the floor as well.
It was created and choreographed by Alan O’ Brien, a well-known dance teacher
and we performed it to ‘Just Say Yes’ by Snow Patrol (the yes equality song).”
James’s nephew created a box in which Tony and James sealed two letters written
to each other the night before the wedding, this box shall be opened on their
tenth wedding anniversary.
The couple reflected on their favourite memories
from the day, Tony’s was “When we both started crying during the ceremony and
hugged each other.” While James’s cherished moment was “sitting at the wedding
table as a couple now legal in the eyes of the law with all our families and
friends clapping for us.