A ‘Marvel-ous’ proposal by Declan Doody for Alan Doyle
Declan Doody’s father had been in a near fatal accident resulting in an
extended period in hospital. There were times when Declan really believed this
could be the last time he would see his father alive. The support Declan
received from his loving partner Alan Doyle helped him through the tough
time.“That was when I realised that I was going to spend the rest of my life
with Alan. He didn’t even have to say anything, he just held my hand for as
long as I needed him to. And I knew it was going to be ok. He was my pillar of
support through one of the toughest times of my life,” Declan shares with Irish
After a series of successful operations, Declan’s father fortunately
made a full recovery and Declan in his heart it was time to ask Alan to marry
him. “We will be together five years this December. We had mentioned marriage
before, sometimes jokingly to test each other’s reaction, but more recently
because we knew it was what we both wanted,” Declan said.
The success of the Yes Vote in May made the dream of marriage a reality for
same sex couples in Ireland. “Our families are proud of us and proud of who we
are, and now they can share in our wedding day like any other,”Alan said.
Declan, an office manager, from Limerick, had been planning the proposal for a
few months. Both Declan and Alan, an insights analyst originally from
Portlaoise, describe themselves as “into books, gaming, graphic novels, and
comics.” It was this shared interest that lead to Declan proposing in a really
Declan explains, “Alan isn’t into ‘big and loud’. I knew intimate and personal
would be what he would want. So I decided to write a comic book for him. I
wrote each page to tell a personal story from our relationship so far and then
a few of our closest friends helped transform these stories into a comic book
effect. That way each page was a different style created by people important to
us both”. Declan then cooked a romantic dinner at home. “After we had finished
dinner I handed Alan the gift wrapped comic. I was so nervous; I don’t think I
have ever drank red wine so fast”.
The last scene in the comic book was of Alan and Declan seated in their home
with a cooked dinner and the words ‘Issue Two Coming Soon…….
Hopefully’ blazed across the page. Alan recalls “Declan dropped to one
knee and presented a ring. The minute I saw it I instantly cried and just kept
repeating ‘yes’. It was perfect”. The ring is a black Tungsten stone embedded
with a single sapphire. With the big question finally asked, there is now
a wedding to plan.
Declan and Alan have decided to give themselves a few years to organise their
big day. “We want to enjoy being engaged” Alan said, “to give ourselves the
time to make the day perfect. We’re planning a winter wedding and ideally we
want snow to fall. We have always been so lucky to have the support of our
family and friends and we want them to play a role on our wedding day.”
Both grooms to be will have a best man and a maid of honour each. “We haven’t
decided yet who is going to walk each of us down the aisle, or if we will even
include that tradition, we might just take that step together.” One thing the
boys are sure of is that Declan is going to wear a kilt. “I have always wanted
to wear a kilt, and marrying the man I love is the best excuse I can think of.”
We at Irish LGBT Weddings wish the guys all the best in their wedding planning
and can’t wait to see what their ‘Issue two’ has in store!